Friday, September 20, 2013

Full Confessional Friday! 9/20/2013


Be it Venial or Mortal (there's no escaping Original), we've all got secrets -- light, dark, funny, sad -- worth bringing to light. The act of confession can be liberating, mollifying and entertaining. Contrition? Repentance? A shot of Tequila? That's your call, sister. 


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  1. After asking husbandman to assist girlchild with Scout Jamboree application form for over a week I found myself finalising it with her at 11:30 last night. When I made clear to him my disappointment with the situation he turned it into a case of "Poor him". Normally I placate a little bit but last night I just said No. No, this is my turn to get cross, to be fed up, to be let down. He huffed to bed to sulk. I tidied the kitchen, put the dogs out and set both the dishwasher & washing machine off.

    It was a shitty 24 hours up to that point - bruised and sore after falling over old black dog and both of us collapsed onto concrete, attended funeral of 43yo brain tumour victim, wrangled 24 preschoolers for several hours (complete w wee accidents, fights and emotional turmoil) - and enough was enough.

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    1. Trash, I've been there with having to do something that you asked the partner to handle. It stinks, and seems that it probably didn't help with all the other stuff.

      I hope the weekend makes it better!

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    2. I'm sorry you had to do it all... especially after the grueling experiences of the previous 24 hours.
      Brain cancer takes too many, too young. I'm sorry for your loss.

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    3. I'm sorry for your loss, brain cancer takes too many, too soon.

      Good on you for taking your turn. You earned it, and you owned it. I hope tomorrow is a brighter day for all.

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  2. Jessie - a different oneSeptember 20, 2013 at 5:46 AM

    When I picked up my kids on Tuesday from the sitters everyone ran up to me to let me know that my twins (A & B) had switched classes that day. WHAT??? I asked what happened when the teachers found, thinking that this only went on for a little while, to which I was told, "Oh, they didn't know." Palm to face...

    A came up with this plan in the morning because B talks about her class all the time and she wanted to see what was going on. Also, apparently they believe that there will be classroom pets in B's class at some point, and this was also part of the allure.

    I want to be clear....we know this is hilarious because really, you expect this out of a tween/teen, but not a 5 year old in Kindergarten. My husband and I have had to walk out of rooms to keep from laughing. We let the teachers know that we in no way hold them responsible for this. It's only the second full week of class, and unless you see them/know them together, it is for people to tell who is who. A's teacher said she had a bit of an idea, but thought it couldn't possibly be. It appears that B, pretending to be A, was signing her own name to A's papers. When the teacher called her on it she just smiled, erased it, and signed A's name.

    While we were told they were fraternal, they look very much alike. If they are together it is easier to tell by voices (B’s voice is deeper, A’s is higher pitched) and subtle differences such as B being taller, and B having a scar on her forehead to tell them apart.

    B says that she knew it wasn’t a good idea, but did it anyway. Obviously we told her that she needs to make decisions for herself and if she knew it wasn’t something she should do she should have said no. A said she wanted to see what was going on there and that’s why she did it. This is the first time that they have been apart like this. They have always been together, and while we wanted to foster independence, we didn’t factor in the curiosity and perhaps the jealously of what the other was doing that they were not.

    The teachers have been great and made sure to let the kids know it wasn't a good idea for safety reason, and because they would be missed in class and also miss out on some of the activities.

    I told them that I'm sure my daughters will be apart of their teaching memories.... B's teacher said that they never went over anything like this in her education classes.

    I have not put this out on Facebook because, as I said, I don't want the teachers to get in any trouble because it is my kids fault. Hopefully this is not the beginning of a very long school career with this two.

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    1. I would award your girls with pizza for their ingenuity, I love me clever, interesting kids with a bit of spirit.

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    2. My grandpa was an identical twin, he and his brother did this until their 60's, I do believe.....and had to stop when one aged more than the other.

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    3. Trash, I know...really I wanted to just laugh and leave it at that, but I didn't want them to get the teachers in trouble!

      Trudy, they may be identical (we were only told they were fraternal and haven't gotten the test to confirm), and this may go on for many years too. Just no more this year please!

      I do think it is funny, and it has brightened many a people's day with the telling. It's just...really...really...you're 5. Please, I was not prepared for this yet!

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    4. This is too funny! They are too smart for their own good.

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    5. I admire their curiosity and risk taking!

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    6. Oh, my... terribly funny but also a bit frightening in the parenting realm...
      How kind of you to want to protect their teachers.

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    7. gosh, I love your kids! Brava to them both. That said, if they start abusing this ability, you might consider applying a temporary tattoo to a semi-visible spot on one or the other to give outsiders a fighting chance.

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  3. One great thing - I got the job I had been interviewing for and really, really, wanted.

    One not so great thing - DH is having a really rough time at work, and I think he feels like he just can't get a foothold.

    One icky thing - we have a mouse we just cannot seem to catch!!

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    1. Yea on the great thing!

      Boo on the bad thing! Hope it gets better next week.

      And ewwwww on the icky thing....peanut butter in traps worked for us, but my DH had to do that!

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    2. OMG!! Congrats on the job!! I know you really, REALLY wanted that one. Yay!!

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    3. Great news on the job! I hope things look up for your husband soon!

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    4. Thrilled for you on the job front! Not so much on the mouse front.

      I tried to get one bugger for over a week. Finally gave up. Later, when my son pulled the drawer out, he found a petrified mouse. He must have gotten injured when the trap sprung and died a bit later.

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    5. WOW! Congratulations on the job! Freaking out about the mouse and sorry that your husband is having a rough go right now.

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    6. Miss G's roommate found one of these petrified critters (one they'd been chasing in their apartment for months)under their couch when they moved.

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    7. so happy for you, and for everyone who gets the priviledge of working with you!
      goodx luck with the mouse. can you borrow someone's cat or dog?

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  4. Oh Trash, what a horrible day. I don't blame you for being mad at your husband. I hope you aren't too achy from your fall.

    Jessie, that's hilarious! I think you're going to have your hands full with those girls in the coming years. Stock up with wine.

    Navhelowife, (I always see your screen name and read Navajo Wife, lol) CONGRATS on the job!!! Sorry your husband is going through a rough patch. And I have found the best thing for mice is a cat. :)

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  5. Oops, forgot my confession. As much as I love my children, I am positively giddy with excitement to leave them behind and take off for a girls' get-away weekend to Toronto in November. It's a very big birthday this year, and I've enticed friends from Ottawa, Sudbury and Windsor, and a special guest star from Virginia, to come with my for some carousing and maybe shoe shopping. Thanks to a lovely gift from my dad who said I had to spend it on myself and not the house or kids, I can afford a bit of a splash, and I'm so happy.

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    1. Hope you have a wonderful time on your trip, Alison!

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    2. How fun! Have a blast, you deserve it!!

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    3. Have a blast, Alison. You've earned some time to let down your mom hair!

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    4. happy, happy birthday! hope you have (had?) an incredible time.

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  6. Being unemployed makes me want to rip all my hair out, dance around naked, and paint myself purple. I'm losing my mind very quickly...Everyone keeps saying "enjoy it!" Blah blah blah. I LOVE working! I have wanted to work since I was 8. I die, I melt, I wither...*cheesy dying sound*

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  7. My mind hasn't been 100% focused at work this week, which means it took me longer than usual to get things done, plus there were some extra bits to my work-week (hopefully some of them will make next week much easier). I am feeling fried... spent... used-up. It's a spiraling effect from which I'm finding it difficult to extract myself.

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    1. Karen, I'm enjoying being able to read replies directly under posts -- and it's pure delight to read your upbeat responses. Thank you. And I hope the spiral releases you soon, and you rebound in quick order.

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    2. Hang in there, Karen. Maybe you are due a long weekend soon?

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    3. I think you definitely deserve some running away space Karen. Charging your own batteries is as important as supporting everyone else.

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    4. I am making plans to escape in a few weeks, just for a weekend, and in a non-perfectionist fashion.

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    5. yay escapism. glad you're going to take care of yourself.

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  8. Four years ago I married a smart, kind, witty, caring, laid back, understanding man. For the past year in arguments I have been confronted with an angry, insulting, truth obsessed and irrational human being that I do not recognize.
    Where did my husband go? I want him back. I can't stand this asshole that is taking his place in our disagreements.

    And more deeply... what did I do so wrong to make him change this badly? My heart breaks a little more every day.

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    1. Caro, is he willing to talk about it? Go to counseling? Could it possibly be the new baby -- stress over more responsibility or a wee bit of jealousy that you aren't so available. I'm sorry you are struggling. Having been in this marriage business (and at this very moment in a stand-off with my spouse), I can attest that lack of harmony is miserable.

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    2. Please, please don't think it's you. You can't have done something to change him like this. It must be something inside him. I'm so sorry you are hurting. So very sorry.

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    3. Oh, Caro, I'm so sorry.
      Echoing what Mrs. G. and Kate have already written.

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    4. IT'S NOT YOU. ever, ever, ever. this is HIS shit, not yours. Many, many years ago a friend told me about "goo be gone" which is a mindset in which he tries to put his shit on you, and you just wipe it away. It's goo which he's trying to put on you. Now. Go find a counselor for you both, or if he won't go, for yourself. There's something going on, and if he won't address it to save your marriage, you have to do it to save yourSELF.
      Hugs. this marriage thing is hella hard. Good luck

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  9. My confession. I bought a premade cookie crumb pie crust. Cooking guilt!

    ~Molly

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    1. Molly, if that's your biggest confession, you are living right.

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    2. Oh, there is always plenty. Plenty to bitch about, plenty to try and blame on kids or the dude. But right now I am trying to lessen the drama in my noggin by not feeding it so much.

      Life is pretty damn good. I have been sick for a month, but hoping that with moving stress over I can focus on sleeping enough and getting healthy. Trying other allergy meds and getting off the Dayquil.

      But I really do try to cook everything from scratch. It's just that cookie crusts are fucking annoying to make and no healthier made at home. So there.

      ~Molly

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    3. Molly, no guilt, no blame! (Also, while I am self-righteous when it comes to making my own pastry pie crusts, I ALWAYS purchase the graham cracker crusts pre-made.

      Hope you feel better soon!

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  10. Tomorrow, my husband turns 65. I met him when he was 16. I have no gift for him, nothing special planned and I don't feel the least bit bad about it. He doesn't care, he buys whatever he wants so he wants for nothing. So what is bothering me? I'm worried when my birthday comes around in November he'll think it is okay to ignore it. That would make me very unhappy because I love to celebrate my birthday. I'm not sure how to handle this, tell him or just start buying my own birthday present and wrap it up myself? I do this for Christmas. What do you think? ALBUG

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    1. What kind of "sign of love" *is* important to him, and when? Like, do you make him dinner when he's tired? Or give him footrubs? Or whatever?
      Be honest and tell him that you love to give him THAT kind of gesture, and he loves getting them. And then say that you love getting your birthday celebrated, and that you'll appreciate it if he'd do that for you.
      (and also, buy a gift for yourself and maybe order some gourmet cupcakes)

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    2. Mr. G. and I tend to buy our own gifts, though we do make each other a special dinner or dine in a restaurant to celebrate. It works for us.

      We do try and do special things for each other that are not related to a holiday. Some months we are better at than others.

      If it's really important to you that your husband buys you gifts, you need to let him know why--that it makes you feel special, appreciated, known. I know some women who keep wish lists on Amazon to make it a little easier on their spouses.

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    3. Echoing Kate :& Mrs. G here (I seem to be echoing... maybe because I'm posting on a Tuesday night).
      I had the same problem with my husband who just turned 50. He doesn't want a big deal celebration, but I don't want my own birthdays ignored. It's tough to balance.

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  11. After a looong week of crap hitting several fans in just about each of the metaphorical rooms of my life, I got scolded by the husband for some stupid shit that wasn't my doing. So finally, I asked him for one week -- just on solid week - where he didn't find fault, blame me, scold me, or make me "make up for" something I'd done wrong (real or imagined). I said that I need to be able to NOT feel like I'm holding my breath all the time, trying not to screw up.
    He actually accepted the challenge, and said that maybe it will help him see if he really IS doing this to me as often as I say.
    All I know now is that I am really truly looking forward to this week. I can relax for once.
    -temp. anon

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    1. Good work on taking a stand. May your week be restful and filled with peace.

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    2. I hope you are feeling at peace right now. Please report back next Friday!

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    3. and how did it go? This sounds like something I need to do in my life!

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  13. It has been a week. Is it Friday yet?

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